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gramps <3.

grandpa & I, c. 2006

I usually try to stay away from things that are incredibly personal, or difficult to deal with on my blog. The reason being is that, for one, I like to maintain some sort of anonymity. Secondly, there is so much out there that happens on a daily basis that we’re all forced to deal with, why drag it here, to my happy place? I prefer to keep this spot positive and joyful, a place where people want to come and visit during their moments away from reality.

That said, it’s also important to realize that things are not always butterflies and rainbows. Stuff happens. Crappy stuff. And sometimes it makes it easier to appreciate the sweet when you know what sour tastes like. I’ve gotten to know and love so many of you over the last year, and would like to share what I’ve been going through lately with you.

Yesterday morning, after a long, grueling battle with cancer, my grandpa passed away. He left behind four children, their respective spouses, a wife, nine grandchildren and a great-grandchild, all of whom not only love each other, but legitimately crave time together. Seriously. Everyone gets along. That there is a testament to the type of man that he was.

He was the man who brought his wife tea in bed, every morning, and prepared a candle lit dinner for her every Friday during their 55 years of marriage. He was the man with the greatest belly, and the belly laugh to support it. A man with incredible stories, including the time he had the opportunity to serve the Queen breakfast during his stint in the navy. He had thirty men lined up in the kitchen,with every ingredient you could imagine on hand, ready for anything she desired, only to have her order a bowl of cereal. He laughed as he told the story, every time. The man who sat at the head of the table, eight grandchildren in tow (at the time, my baby sister wasn’t around yet), playing military lunch* with soup and grilled cheese. A man who suffered for a year now, in pain that I could only begin to comprehend, without even an iota of a complaint. He never missed a beat, or a party, until the very end. This is the man who, at the age of 72, funelled rum and coke’s at the pleas of his teenage grandchildren (we were 19, I swear of it!) It’s safe to say that he lived his life to the utmost fullest until the very end. My heart aches at this moment, but I feel relief knowing that he’s no longer in pain. His legacy will go on in the form of his incredibly loving, and supportive family. A family that I count my blessings to be a part of, every day. The best there is in this lifetime, I swear. R.I.P Gramps, you will be sorely missed but never, for one second, forgotten.

*military lunch: 8 kids, 8 bowls of soup, 8 grilled cheeses, with Grandpa at the head of the table commanding our moves: “one spoonful of soup with three and a half noodles on it”, “bite the corner of your grilled cheese” to be continued until our lunches were finished. To date these lunches are still my favourite childhood memory. I only recently realized that this was his ploy to get 8 kids to finish their meals. Brilliant, and incredibly fun.

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    July 11, 2011 at 10:38 am

    I am so sorry to hear about your grandfather. May he rest in peace! But I am glad to hear that he had a wonderful life, that he loved life and he lived it to the full. An example worth following.

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    Barb Andrews
    July 11, 2011 at 10:44 am

    awww Sweetie my thoughts are with you<3–this was your dad's dad?

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      July 12, 2011 at 11:31 am

      Aunt Barb – yes it was my dad’s dad. Thank you for your comment <3

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    July 11, 2011 at 11:22 am

    I’m sorry to hear about your grandfather Jacquelyn. It’s nice to know that he’s lived a good life and that he’s no longer in pain.

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    July 11, 2011 at 11:25 am

    I have recently lost my Grandmother and in a way I can relate to what you mean and are going through even. She suffered from a lot of pain in the end, and it was only in her last days that it was diagnosed as Cancer. She was a very active lady, but by the end of her life.. ten years before her death.. she had taken to the bed and that didn’t suit her personality at all.

    We miss her immensely. May they both – your gramps and my dadi – find peace somewhere in the heavenly skies.

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      July 12, 2011 at 11:31 am

      Hi holygypsy, I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s a terrible feeling that’s for sure. Love and hugs to you as well

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    July 11, 2011 at 11:32 am

    He sounds like he was a wonderful man and I’m so sorry for your loss. It was a pleasure reading your post, may he rest in peace. x

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    Clare Marie
    July 11, 2011 at 11:35 am

    i am so sorry to hear about your loss. he sounds like a wonderful man, and i hope you hold onto those memories.

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    July 11, 2011 at 11:36 am

    Jacquelyn, I am so sorry to hear about your loss! I am always at a loss for words in situations like this. After having gone through this with both my grandpas even more so, because I know that no words will really help make the grief more bearable.. The thing that helped me most was to be with people I know loved him just as much as I did, talking about what a wonderful person he was and just dreaming about the past.
    I am glad to hear your family has such a great bond and that you will be there for each other!
    Lots of love and hugs from the other side of the world!

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      July 12, 2011 at 11:33 am

      Hi Vanessa,
      Thank you for your sweet words. I really do appreciate them! I know that words can’t make anything better but all of the love certainly does help. And I absolutely agree with spending time with those you love, keeping his memory alive.
      I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve had to go through this as well.

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    July 11, 2011 at 12:02 pm

    Aw, I’m so sorry to hear about your loss, Jacquelyn. Your grandpa sounds like such an amazing man and I love the story of the military lunch. So sweet.
    Sending you a lots of love and big virtual hug.
    :) Christine

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    July 11, 2011 at 12:25 pm

    sending lots of thoughts and prayers to you and your family Jacquelyn!

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    July 11, 2011 at 12:48 pm

    What beautiful memories you have of your grandpa! He sounds like an amazing man who lived a full and beautiful life! Sending you my thoughts and love. -Leah

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    July 11, 2011 at 12:55 pm

    Sending love and virtual hugs. My grandparents are my life, and I cannot comprehend being without them. I can only imagine the loss you feel and my heart wrenches for you and your family.
    Amazing memories (military lunches are something that may start occurring in our house when my younger brothers visit) and he sounds like a wonderful man.
    Drink buckets of tea – I always find it helps.

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    July 11, 2011 at 1:48 pm

    Jacquelyn, I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you big hugs today!

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    Sofia's Journal
    July 11, 2011 at 3:09 pm

    I’m really glad you shared this Jacquelyn and I’m sorry for your loss. Lots of love. xx

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    July 11, 2011 at 5:51 pm

    Beautifully said darling. I loved his gentle ways and his poems

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    erin and jeannine
    July 11, 2011 at 6:23 pm

    i know we’re new readers here and all, but we wanted to send along our condolences. he sounds like a great person to have had as a grandpa. we also appreciate you sharing, since you never know who else is experiencing the same :)

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    July 12, 2011 at 4:10 am

    Im so sorry to hear about your grandpa… such a sad thing for hear and go through. Love and thoughts coming your way hun. xxx

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    July 12, 2011 at 8:14 am

    My condolences Jacquelyn xoxo

    I can relate to having the best grandpa in the world. I hope these next few months are full of great memories and laughter, as well as the tears and heartache.

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    July 12, 2011 at 10:10 am

    I’m so sorry to hear this. That was a beautiful send off to what sounds like a lovely man. Hope you’re hanging in there.

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    July 12, 2011 at 10:31 am

    beautiful entry…

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    July 12, 2011 at 11:34 am

    Thank you all so much! You don’t realize how much your words mean to me.

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    July 13, 2011 at 12:59 am

    jacquelyn i’m so sorry for your loss. there’s nothing i can really say to help but your grandfather sounds like he was a very special man and that you have amazing memories that will hopefully bring you lots of comfort.

    peaceful thoughts sent from india.


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    July 14, 2011 at 6:32 am

    I’m very sorry for your loss, but so glad you’ve got all those wonderful memories of the man who clearly meant so much to you and your family. Hold on to those forever. May he rest in peace.

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    Meta Musings
    July 21, 2011 at 10:00 pm

    Jacquelyn, this post was so incredibly touching. I am so sorry for your loss. Your grandfather sounds like an amazing man. Thank you for sharing with us. I hope for butterflies and rainbows for you. xx

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    July 24, 2011 at 1:11 am

    I’m so sorry for your loss but thank you for sharing; it was touching and inspiring. Sometimes it is good to read something personal especially when the online world can feel so impersonal at times. Your story is beautiful, may he rest in peace and stay alive in your heart and memories forever.

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